One of the acts of gentleness and gallantry, is to call his wife with the names she prefers, or call it by its diminutive name, to make it smooth and harmonious, that is, the more familiar and tender.
And the Prophet’s Prayers and Peace of Allah be upon him, was said to ‘Aisha: “‘ A’esh!, ں ibrîl (as) (Archangel Gabriel) is here, and greets you” correct hadith with accordingly. Also used to call ‘Aisha “Homaira’.” Y “Homaira ‘” is the diminutive of Hamra, the name is usually called the “white woman” and said [Ibn Kathir] in “The Last Weekend.” And AD · Dahabiyy said: “Al-Hamra in the dialect / language of the people of Al-Hijaz means white woman with redness, which was unusual among them.”
So the Prophet SAWS and Peace of Allah be upon him, showed his tenderness to ‘Aisha calling these names nicknames and harmonious. And in Saheeh Muslim records the hadith of ‘Aisha about the fast where it counts: The Messenger of Allah, The Prayers and Peace of Allah be upon him, kissed one of his wives while fasting and she laughed, may Allah be pleased with it. “
Also in the hadith of ‘Aisha who said: “The Messenger of Allah, The Prayers and Peace of Allah be upon him, says:’ … then he mentioned a few words that mean the most complete believer is the one that has better moral virtues and the most tender with your family / your wife. “Through these hadiths is evident how tender was the Prophet’s Prayers and Peace of Allah be upon him, with their wives and specifically the behavior that was sensitive to it – ie to ‘Aisha, may Allah be pleased with her – and how well they treated her.
Also, another sign of courtesy and delicacy was to provide food, as the Prophet’s Prayers and Peace of Allah be upon him, said: “Certainly, any amount you spend your money is considered charity, even the piece food you put into the mouth of your wife. ” That piece of food you get to put in the mouth of your wife in your own hands, not just something you want your heart, and a form of cooperation with it, but is also considered a handout (Sadaka) with you earn the reward of Allah, Praised and Exalted Sea thus provide food to the wife is a form of gallantry and a tender gesture. And this is a good psychological effect on her.
And I ask you, brother … you and any man … what you require such treatment? Nothing, just a good mood, a good reference, a claim for reward, a good cooperation, and construction of the soul. And is that Islamic law orders you to be gallant and tender, given the role it plays in uniting the hearts and closer.
It is very much what we’ve read about the biography of Prophet Muhammad, the Prayers and Peace of Allah be upon him, in the fields of education, faith, politics, military, or the economy … but there are few books and publications on the biography of the Prophet to talk about your home and how was their relationship with their wives.
Anyone who is secure with rigor in the field of family relationships in the life of the beloved Muhammad, may the Prayers and Peace of Allah be upon him, notice that there are many things we need so urgent in our contemporary reality and that, if we took them into practice, would lead us to stabilize our homes, and strengthen our marriage relationships. And we will give some examples in this paper about respect for the Prophet, may the Prayers and Peace of Allah be upon him, the feelings of the wife and assessment, and how they expressed their love for their wives.
And so we see Mrs. Aisha, may Allah be pleased with her asked the Prophet, may the Prayers and Peace of Allah be upon him, “How is your love to me?” Then the Prophet, may the Prayers and Peace of Allah be upon him, said, “like a twisted rope.” Aisha then asked, “how is the twisting of a rope?” And he said, “is invariably” … ie, not altered. And the Prophet’s Prayers and Peace of Allah be upon him, described to ‘Aisha, may Allah be pleased with her, her love like twisted rope, that is, the love was still interlaced his heart, and those words certainly made the wife feel happy to know the feelings of her husband by the description above. And we imagine the feelings of ‘Aisha, may Allah be pleased with her, and the happiness he felt when he heard those words, even though she knew beforehand that the Prophet Muhammad, the Prayers and Peace of Al · Allah be upon him, she was his favorite love. Also, she heard him say many times that she was the favorite among all women, as their preference for porridge among other foods.
The man has a special way to express their feelings, which is different from women because of its peculiar nature, as when she wants to express his feelings, expressed verbally by saying “I love you” … “I miss you” …. “I need you,” and repeated these words many times to her husband. In contrast, when the man wants to express their feelings, then do it through work or producing something, and rarely expressed in words. For example, if the man wants to tell his wife he loves her, you buy what you need, or buy certain foods or drinks for the house, or furniture … That is, for man, one way to express your love.
Of course, this negative habit is a man of the noble Messenger distanced himself. The fact that the Prophet’s Prayers and Peace of Allah be upon him, describing his love and feelings to ‘Aisha, meant that he was shown with her tender, which showed gallantry and made him reach his wife what she wanted to hear from her husband and lover, and this is a wonderful way in the treatment of couples. In this connection, “Ibn ‘Asakir” narrated by Mrs. Aisha, may Allah be pleased with her that the Messenger, the Prayers and Peace of Allah be upon him, said: “I do not death matter, after knowing that you’ll be my wife in Al-ں anna (Paradise )”… What should be the aim of ‘Aisha, may Allah be pleased with her, and her feelings on hearing these words that made him feel safe and hope for the love and affection, both in the worldly life, as in Last?
Take the case of Ibn Al-Ar’As · Rabi ‘, the husband of Zaynab, the daughter of the Prophet, the Prayers and Peace of Allah be upon him, when he left Islam fled Mecca and she sent him a message urging him to return and enter Islam. Then he sent a message that said: “I swear by Allah that to me, your father is not guilty, and no greater desire for me, my dear, you go the same way. However, I hate to tell you that your husband disappoint his people, so I hope you will forgive and understand. ” It is clear that the message is to say that he, Al-’As wanted to Zaynab, and the proof of this is I wanted to go with it the same way, no matter what was that way and besides, he hated to hear the tell people what would make her sad, and eventually asked him to forgive and understand. For that love, Zaynab could go after him, and bring with it converted to Islam.
Some writers argue that the West respects women, citing the fact that the husband opens the car door for his wife, though that seems to be, but a mature person can easily find in many other aspects, they humiliating treatment of women and disrespect him. And we Muslims, we do not raise the issue of the struggle between man and woman, but complete each other, and therefore, we say that respect should occur on both sides.
And we have an example of this in our beloved Muhammad, may the Prayers and Peace of Allah be upon him, when his wife, Mrs. Safia, visited him during his evening devotion in the mosque in the last ten days of Ramadan, and spoke with him for an hour and then, when he joined to leave, the Prophet’s Prayers and Peace of Allah be upon him, stood up and accompanied her to the door to say goodbye. And there is another narration in which he said: “wait for you”, and his house was in Dar Osama, and then went with him.
Our aspiration, with these examples, is that respect reigns in the family, because respect is the secret of the continuation of marital love, and the continuation of family stability.
How nice life would double if the couple is treated this way! And how we need to open the pages of the prophetic and Islamic history to discover the most beautiful early marital arts!
